Many of you question whether there is anything after death.  Many of you turn to religion in the hope that you will find the answers you are looking for.  You lose a loved one and feel utter despair.  They are no longer with you.  Have they gone to a better place, heaven, or are they just gone never to be seen or heard of again?  The answer is clear.  They have returned to their true home.  They walk beside me in a place that is truly wondrous.  There is no hate, no fear, no wars.  We are surrounded by love and a beauty beyond your words.  I am unable to explain it completely as you do not have the words, but the place is love; it is wonder; it is beauty.  It is a rainbow of so many colours that you would lose count after a day or two.  Imagine your own colour spectrum and multiply it by a few hundred thousand and you would see what I can see.

So why are many of you so scared of death if the reality of life beyond it is so full of wonder?  Of course, you cannot see it.  You will not see it until you return here and when you do you will be filled with complete and utter joy and calmness.  There is life after death, and there is life before life.  Your life in your physical body is but a moment.  It is a click of your fingers.  Your life here with me will go on for eternity.  It is your truth.  I wish I could describe it more.  In reality all of those that you have lost are standing beside me waiting for your return.  They are with you every moment of every day, watching over you, guiding you.  There is so much for me to share, but at the risk of overwhelming, I will stop today.

Love is the question of all time.  What is love?  How do you know you have found it?  Are you in love?  What is true love?  It is a question that is virtually impossible to answer.  Love is based on your feelings and you cannot measure those feelings.  How do you know, for example, that your feelings of love are the same as those of another?  Many of you find love in your time in your physical body on earth.  Many of you search for true love and never find it and some of you believe you have found love, when in actual fact the depth of the feelings you have do not equate to being in love.  Some of you meet someone early on in life and fall in love, only to find months or years later that the first person was not the love of your life.  You meet someone else and feel that earth shattering, all encompassing feeling that is love.

Everyone is in search of love.  The love a mother or father feels for a child cannot be questioned, however finding your soul mate is a different matter all together.  There are millions and millions of people walking the earth you inhabit, but even so, some do not meet their partner for life.  How can that be?  Surely there must be at least one individual out there that will fill the hole in your heart?  Life is complex.  I have hinted before that you choose each step of your life in your physical body and this includes the loves of your life.  Some of you choose to meet your soul mate early on and live a life of happiness and harmony together.  Some of you choose to meet a few partners who you feel may be ‘the one’, but then realise later in life, when you do meet ‘the one’, the feeling of complete and utter true love.  You realise those loves you experienced in the past were false loves.  Some of you choose to go through life in search of love, never to find it.  Love is a lesson.  To lose in love is as painful as it gets.  It can feel as if your heart is being torn in two.  To find love is a wondrous feeling.  To find love that is not reciprocated causes a numbness.  The list is endless.

I am sure you can remember a time when you caused someone pain, either intentionally or unintentionally.  A harsh word spoken without thought can sometimes cause the greatest of upset.  It is hard to think before you speak, to consider the impact of your words on others.  Often it feels as if you speak without even the briefest of thoughts.  Your mouth works in complete harmony with your brain and there is nothing to arrest the words that flow.  Of course, this is not true.  Each of you has the ability to consider your words carefully before you speak them.  Sometimes it may be as simple as not saying anything until a situation has calmed; walking away until you are ready for a reasoned dialogue.  You are human and this is hard for each and every one of you.

There are very few of you who are able to speak with prior thought on a constant basis.  The words of others can cause you to react quickly, especially when you feel an injustice has been said and done, and you feel it important to make your point; maybe get the upper hand.  In reality your lives could be quite balanced and calm.  The ability to respond to situations with calmness and respect is a trait you can nurture and learn, but it is a hard lesson, a very hard lesson indeed.  There are many influencing factors into how you respond to situations, and to learn to control each of them is quite a feat, but it is a feat worth mastering, as not only will you begin to feel calmer within yourself, but you will see others around you enveloped in their own sense of calm.

Life is for living and in living your life you should embrace each day, each situation with a sense of wonder.  Every interaction is important, from the mundane, to the in depth conversation about something important.  You have an impact on those around you in both large and small ways, from the briefest chat in the school playground to the discussions about the state of your relationship.  The way you say things and handle situations can be the make or break of a friendship or deeper relationship.  In short, you are how others see you.  You are the words you use, the smile you project.  No one else can influence your way of being apart from yourself.  You can decide whether to project kindness or anger, happiness or despair.  In moments of weakness the easy answer is to react with a harsh word or stare, but in actuality you will feel better about yourself if you react kindly, with measured words.