Love is the answer to life’s woes.  Many of you think this is the case.  If you can find love, then your problems can be solved, but what is love?  Many of you will have experienced losing the one you love.  Your partner falls out of love with you and you feel devastated and alone.  How will you cope?  Everyone needs a partner, a soul mate don’t they?  Of course love is important in your life, but there are times when individuals are alone.  They have no partner, no true love in their life.  Does this make them a failure?  Of course not.  This is a time to take stock, to understand the real ‘you’.  There will be moments that you feel alone, maybe even lonely, but this could be a time to find out more about yourself, to explore the place you live in, even the world.  The old saying ‘two minds are better than one’ can be true, but alternatively having time to explore your own mind, your own ambitions, your own self is quite a wonderful thing too.

When you are alone, without a partner, many feel there is a stigma attached to this situation.  It is not acceptable to be a single person.  This is not true.  It is your perception of reality.  In truth, many of those around you in relationships will be unhappy.  They will be smiling on the outside, but on the inside they may be hoping for more, wishing they had not taken the step into the partnership they are in.  Love can be the answer, but not everyone is lucky enough to find love for the whole of their lives.  Those that use those moments of being single to explore, to grow and develop will look back on their lives with great satisfaction.  It is nice, satisfying even, to have someone around every day, someone to rely on, but in contrast those that are not in this situation can still live a full and satisfying life.  There is no right or wrong.  Everyone has the ability to lead a happy and fulfilling life, whatever their situation.  It is a mindset, the way you perceive a situation.  This is easy for me to say, I know, but it is a reality.  Life is for living.  Why waste a day fretting over something that could have been, when more often than not something much brighter will be around the corner.  Sometimes it may take a while for life to take an upturn, but almost inevitably it will and you will look back on those times when you felt sad and alone as the briefest of moments.